As a teenager, you probably started thinking…
“I wish someone had warned me about the wide range of emotional discomfort.”
It’s weird, you know? Ben* never used to hide stuff, but lately, he’s started keeping secrets and lying.
He felt pumped for his first day of ninth grade despite having a tough past 12 months, and he thought high school would be a breeze, but it’s not.
Now, all these negative feelings won’t go away.
Ben did some research and realized what he’s feeling falls under emotional distress, even depression, and everything going on in his head feels off. Most importantly, who would get it if he tried to explain?
Toughing it out seemed likely to lead to a better outcome.
Ben thought he could hide in the shadows, or so he thought. Still, he remained unaware that the caring people in his life were aware.
His behavior has become noticeably different. His teachers noticed and then informed his parents, who also observed the changes. Similarly, his siblings shared similar experiences, and they all sensed something was out of balance with Ben.
Ben’s demeanor faded, and his laughter shifted to a whisper. He moved through his days with very little sunlight over his head and carrying a heavy heart filled with disconnect and a lack of understanding.
Ben made a courageous decision and asked for help.
Ben worked up the courage to open up to his parents and see if they could find a therapist for him.
However, his parents disregarded the notion, assuming it was simply a temporary moment he was experiencing.
They were aware that a few of their friends had sent their children to therapy and couldn’t help but worry if it was something as a family they should consider.
As parents, they questioned, “Should we take the chance? Perhaps the therapist could offer guidance to Ben and reassure him that everything is fine, comforting his anxieties.”
As a therapist, I’ve met countless teens like Ben. It’s almost as if they’re holding their breath, longing for someone to arrive and grant them permission to release and breathe.
Here’s how our first appointment looks.
Firstly, I meet with the parent or guardian to discuss any questions or concerns, as well as logistical matters such as cancellations, billing, and scheduling our initial appointment.
Secondly, I consistently include the teen and at least one parent or guardian in the first session for about 10-15 minutes to review the steps discussed during the meeting with the parent or guardian, ensuring alignment and forward progress.
During my first meeting with your teen, I prioritize building a solid relationship by conducting an assessment to gather comprehensive information about them. This approach helps me understand their needs and provide effective, tailored support. Together, we’ll work toward developing a personalized plan to address their situation and goals moving forward.
For someone like Ben, he might not be as forthcoming during the initial session, but it establishes a united team and a defined purpose. During this session, the therapist, parents or guardians, and the teen closely collaborate, striving to enhance his life.
Therapy tailored for teens can be transformative and even lifesaving.
During this stage of life, adolescents grapple with issues surrounding identity, beliefs, autonomy, academic and career aspirations, social standing, sexuality, and decision-making.
In adolescence, young people face challenges related to independence, self-identity, sexual orientation, academic and occupational goals, and choices.
My approach involves fostering a haven where your teen can navigate challenges and confront essential questions avoided for days, weeks, or even years.
Like Ben, teens have questions.
“What can I do if I’m constantly overwhelmed and anxious about school and my future?”
“Am I ALWAYS going to feel this way?”
“I’ve been feeling down lately and staying focused in class, but I’m unsure if it’s just a phase. How can I tell the difference?”
“I’ve noticed that I’m irritable and angry lately, even over small things. Is this stress, or could it be a symptom of a mental health issue?”
“How do I know if what I’m feeling is normal or a sign of something more serious?”
The teenage phase can be quite challenging.
Managing life’s obstacles becomes more daunting when faced with mental health challenges such as depression and anxiety, among others.
It’s as if unwelcome guests are constantly taking over the driver’s seat, steering the vehicle, and taking charge of your journey.
By understanding their cognitive processes, developing problem-solving skills, and navigating social dynamics among peers, your teenager can assert control over their circumstances and prioritize well-being, mental resilience, and meaningful connections.
I tailor sessions to meet your teen’s needs.
I thoughtfully prepare each session to cater to their needs and craft it to address specific goals and objectives identified in collaboration with your teen, ensuring a focus on their unique needs and concerns.
Some teens arrive prepared with topics to discuss, while others require guidance; once I understand your teen better, I’ll ask pertinent questions about school, friendships, dating, or their regular activities.
Therapy sessions are designed with adaptability to meet your teen’s evolving needs and preferences, facilitating adjustments in pacing, content, and focus as required.
Your teen will set therapy goals and receive regular feedback on progress, with confidentiality maintained while ensuring open communication and updates with involved adults to support your teen’s well-being.
Here is a breakdown of our sessions.
Personalized Interventions: The interventions are selected based on your teen’s preferences, strengths, and areas for growth, ensuring that the approach is suitable and effective for them.
Individualized Techniques: Our sessions incorporate techniques and strategies tailored to your teen’s learning style, communication preferences, and emotional expression, fostering engagement and progress.
Holistic Approach: Therapy sessions take a comprehensive approach to address your teen’s mental health concerns and overall well-being, encompassing physical health, social relationships, and academic or vocational aspirations.
Collaborative Planning: Therapy sessions involve ongoing collaboration between your teen and myself to review progress, explore new challenges, and adapt treatment plans accordingly, ensuring that the approach remains relevant and effective
As our journey progresses, I may provide suggestions for Parents and Guardians.
We will explore alternative services or engage with additional resources if needed.
I consistently consider the overall well-being of your teen. Should issues arise during sessions, for example:
If academic performance is a concern, the school may conduct assessments to identify any underlying learning difficulties.
Should sleep or eating habits pose concerns, seeking a medical evaluation may be prudent to address potential health issues.
Involvement in extracurricular or community activities could enhance the teen’s mental wellness, and I’m available to provide potential options.
The next stage involves reaching out.
I’m available to chat.
Perhaps you’re here because your teen has expressed a desire to speak with a therapist, and if so, that’s fantastic! If you haven’t sought their opinion, now is the ideal moment to initiate that conversation.
I have noticed a shift in the mindset of numerous teens over time. In today’s society, adolescents are increasingly recognizing fewer stigmas attached to therapy services and mental health concerns.
I offer a free 15-minute consultation scheduled via video. I would encourage you as a parent to participate in this and consider letting your teen meet me because getting to know the possible therapist before any commitment can help your teen feel more engaged in the process and comfortable taking the next step.
I eagerly await your call.
*Names have been altered to maintain client confidentiality.